5 Life Lessons Learned in 2015

2015 was a ridiculously hard year for me and also for my little family. Looking back now, it’s hard to focus on all the positives because I’m so weighed down and clouded by the negatives. However, I know they are there and if I take a few extra moments, some wonderful memories come flooding back. One thing I can definitely say is: I have learnt a fair few essential life lessons during 2015 -about life, friends and carrying on!

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  1. The first major life lesson learnt in 2015 was that you can outgrow your friends. Or even worse; they outgrow you. This was a huge wake up call to me and it’s definitely a kind of hurt I don’t think I’d ever really experienced before. It almost felt like betrayal. I thought the friends I’d had for the past 5 years or so were the friends that I was at least going to stay in touch with for the next 10, 15 years. The ones I’d be inviting to my wedding, or to Luke’s birthday parties. But sadly, this isn’t the case and having to deal with those feelings of betrayal and then rejection was a huge moment for me. Thankfully, with some support from my lovely other half, I came out the other side a much better, more confident person. I also realised I don’t have to stand in someone’s shadow to get noticed.
  2. That being said; being lonely sucks. It’s a really, really crappy feeling and the effect on your mental health can be absolutely overpowering. I have gone through a lot of loss this past year and realising that you’ve got no one left to talk to or to support you through it is a sobering moment. But you can’t dwell on it!
  3. Being ‘me’ is not so bad. People move on and that’s okay really – other people still like you. And I learned to really like myself. I’m witty, funny and I’m not as bad a person, or as bad a mum as people have made me out to be! I definitely learnt to be comfortable in my own skin and to stand up for what I believe. I don’t shy away from expressing my opinions on topics that I’m passionate about, I’ve tried to develop myself as a person and thrown myself into a bunch of hobbies that I’ve really enjoyed and best of all, I have realised, like I mentioned before, I don’t need to be someone’s best friend to get noticed, or agree for the sake of peace, or to stand in someone’s shadow. That’s a truly liberating feeling!

    5 life lessons I've learned in 2015, the smallest moments are the happiest by lukeosaurusandme.co.uk

    Luke & his step daddy laughing and playing

  4. Sometimes the happiest moments of my life are the really simple ones. The lazy Sunday lie ins; Luke’s laughter and his beautiful, amazing grin; watching the sun set; going for long, slow paced walks; finding something funny and random in a shop; getting a snapchat from a friend you really miss; crying at the ending of a really good book; going to the cinema with a huge bunch of people you love and the biggest one for me was, as usual, Christmas. I don’t care about anything other than my dad getting my fiancé drunk, my step mother telling him to eat more food and him kicking my step brothers bums at Mario Kart on the Wii! Little things are the best things.
  5. If you want something, keep practising and you’ll get there in the end – basically, persistence is key! When I lost all my friends and felt rubbish about myself, I throw everything I had into hobbies. I tried a whole bunch of things – mainly crafty things. I’m not actually a very crafty person, I like to try (too much!) but I have no real artistic flare at all. Until I tried to teach myself how to crochet, and I’m really thankful I did. Crochet, along with being a a bit obsessed with fish keeping (it entailed a surprising amount of research, they’re surprisingly expensive pets to have!) really got me through some tough moments. I kept going and came out of my little rut a batter, stronger person. There’s something therapeutic about trying again and again to get something right and then finally achieving it!

So those are the big five life lessons that I learned the hard way in 2015! I’d love to hear what you feel you’ve come away from 2015 with, let me know!

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22 comments

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      Yes! Sometimes you have to sit back and realise what’s happening around you! The simple things make all the difference. Xx

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      Yes it’s a very sad feeling and one that’s definitely difficult to get your head around! Thank you so much, the same to you! Xx

  1. A Cornish Mum says:

    I can so relate to this, when I left my ex husband after a really horrible time almost 6 years ago I lost a lot of people who I thought were friends…those type of friends I don;t need in my life I have since realised and I am happier for it.
    I don;t mourn the loss of their friendship as I clearly never had it. People can be thoughtless and hurtful, but I am so much happier than I ever was back then and I don;t need loads of friends to be happy being me.
    Stevie xx

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      It’s nice to hear that someone can relate; even if it’s not the nicest of subjects! I spent a lot of my year mourning the loss of friendship, or worse, being angry about it. But as the months went by, just like you, I realised they weren’t “real” friends after all. I lost them when I broke up with Luke’s dad and he said a lot of nasty things about me. It seems everyone believed him without even thinking of it was out of character or anything. :/ I’m much happier knowing i can be more like “me” these days too! Xx

  2. My Petit Canard says:

    It sounds like you had a really tough year last year, but learnt lots of great and valuable lessons. I’ve learnt the ones about friends too and I understand how much it hurts. I’ve made my peace with it and accepted that its just one of those things in life. x

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      Yes it’s definitely something that takes a little while to get over but I think I’m there now 🙂 Thank you xx

  3. Pen says:

    I know how you feel. I separated from my fiancé in 2015 and have lost a lot of friends. I think they just feel uncomfortable because they don’t really know how to react or how to talk to me. I guess they don’t really know what to say. I am going to reach out to them in 2016. If they don’t respond then I will certainly know who my real friends are. I hope you have a lovely 2016. All the best. Pen x #TwinklyTuesday

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      That’s the exact feeling! I don’t know if mine felt uncomfortable, I feel they were all very fickle about the whole thing. One moment they all hated my ex, the next they were all best friends again – very odd! I’ve reached out to one, but it’s all very awkward and it’ll never be the same. I think I just have to move on and let go of the past! You too my lovely. xx

  4. You Baby Me Mummy says:

    Yep I totally know what you mean about the friends thing. It can be awful, but some things are just not mean’t to be I guess. I was lucky blogging has given me some of the best friends I could wish for. I hope you have a wonderful year. Thanks for linking up to #TheList x

  5. laura dove says:

    I can identify with the friends thing too, particularly when I had my children I found that I had out-grown many of my friends also. Its a sad realisation that you no longer have anything in common and yet with the loss of old friends will always come new. Thanks for sharing. #MarvMondays

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      It’s seems to be a topic that lots of people have been able to relate to. Either when they’ve had children or separated from their partners. It’s such a horrid feeling and to think up until that moment they were willing to associate with you, then suddenly they’re gone! It’s very upsetting but it’s good to know I’m not the only one who has ever felt this way. Xx

  6. Naomi says:

    This is such an honest and open post. I’m sorry 2015 wasn’t such a great year; it might be that you look back at the end of 2016 and think that it was the year that your life changed for the better – I hope so. It sounds like you have a really positive attitude moving forward and you’re definitely prioritising the right things in life. I think no. 3 is one of the most important things we can ever learn. #marvmondays

    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      Thank you, I needed to get it all out. I hope you’re right there, I would love to make 2016 THE year of good things. I’m going to try my hardest to stay positive and record some nice memories to look back on. I agree, once you learn to accept yourself and like yourself, things get a lot easier. Thanks for commenting. xx

  7. Lucy at occupation: (m)other says:

    Always nice to take time to reflect on a year past – the ups and, sadly, the downs.Sorry to hear there were some downs on the friendship front for you in 2015. I definitely get you on the loneliness point – I don’t live near to friends or family and some days struggle with the emotional distance that can grow with a physical distance. Well done on the crochet! Happy new year #marvmondays
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    • Lukeosaurus And Me says:

      It is, but reflecting on the downs also makes you realise how far you’ve come. I’ve managed to change my mental attitude and I’m trying to see the sliver lining in these types of situations. Being lonely is probably one of the worst emotions I’ve experienced – and all the times before I thought I was lonely just seemed so stupid! Thank you so much, it’s been good fun! xx

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