Being a mother is like the happiest roller coaster ride that you will ever experience. So it is natural that you will go through those ups and downs while you are embarking on your journey.
However, you should not ignore the early signs of any discomfort you might feel (physically or mentally) and act upon them as soon as you can.
With the help of this article, you can find a path, if not solutions, for those downs, you feel during the motherhood journey.
Before indulging in these activities, there are some simple tests that you can try out to understand the atmosphere of the house; the relationship between all of the family members.
- The first test will require you to ask questions to yourself. For instance, ask yourself, “is your home a place where you and your other family members can destress? A place where you can relax and laugh with one another?”
The answers will let you know the exact situation of your home and will help you understand the areas where fixing is required.
- In the second test, ask your kids to describe you. They can describe you in either way – usually calm, cheerful, tense or stressed out.
If your home climate is on the edge and your kids describe you as someone who is running around constantly, you need to get your stress levels in check.
To do so, here are some of the many ways you can adapt to solve your problems that run parallel to motherhood.
1. Recognise Your Stress Signs
By now, you have already recognised that you’re stressed most of the time and that’s what causes you constant mood fluctuations. This is where it is time you try noticing the way you react to stress.
Commonly, stress signs include rising blood pressure or a fast heart rate that might make you feel dizzy. On the other hand, behaviour wise, you might start speaking louder than usual and yell unnecessarily.
Here what you need to understand is that stress-causing irritation and impatience can result in making bad judgments and determines your behaviour with your kids. It is, therefore, better to keep these signs in check and come up with solutions in your head for yourself and your kids.
2. Pause Every Now and Then
Taking a break has a lot of power and it is often underestimated. However, that does not mean you should not consider taking it. This is because once you give yourself permission to take a ‘stress break’, you will get a new perspective on the problems you are facing.
You can do this by educating your children about the importance of ‘me time’ and allowing yourself to destress and decompress.
Another approach that you can consider is this – while you take a break, you can listen to relaxing music and burn a scented Yankee candle on the side table to take you to a soothing place.
3. Create Solutions for Recurring Stressful Situations
Stress overtakes moms at predictable times; for instance when everyone is rushing to get things done in the morning. Here, try to recognise what situation makes you feel stressed out the most so that it can be dealt with.
Once you recognise the recurring time slots that stress you out, you can prep for these situations beforehand. For instance, if you know everyone rushes in the morning and your kids can’t find what to wear, you can lay their clothes out the night before.
Similarly, keep extra sets of keys for everything ready to avoid stressing out when you are leaving your home.
4. Practise Meditation
Over the recent years, meditation has helped a lot of people to cope up with not only stress but also other serious mental complications. This means exercises like deep abdominal breathing, praying, and concentrating on inner complications can take you a long way.
What’s more, you can teach your kids to meditate with you, so it can become an activity that you both can enjoy together!
To Sum Up…
These are just a few of the many things you can practice to at least recognise the problems that you might be facing. Once you understand these problems, it is easier to look for solutions.
You can even ask other moms around you to know what they do in order to deal with the stress that they might be suffering from.
Moreover, practise medication and talk to your kids like they’re one of you. If you treat them like they wouldn’t understand what you are going through, they will feel like an outcast and nothing will ever work in your favour.
Do follow the tips mentioned above and try to unwind from the daily stresses of life whenever possible!