Review: One For Sorrow Children’s Book
I mentioned over on my Instagram account last week and on this Facebook post, that I’ll be featuring more content this year that is based around mental health. It’s a huge part of my life and so it seems silly to avoid writing about it, especially as I have found that it’s actually quite cathartic and useful for me to get all my thoughts down on paper, so to speak.
Mr Gresty, author of ‘One For Sorrow’ got in touch with me at the end of 2018 and asked if I’d be interested in reading his new children’s book with Luke and reviewing it on Lukeosaurus And Me. After delving a little deeper, I knew immediately that this was a classic in the making and a really important piece of children’s literature.
Why? Because One For Sorrow is a beautifully written and illustrated story that gently introduces children to the subject of mental health.
Most of us are familiar with the old One For Sorrow nursery rhyme: ‘One for sorrow, two for joy, three for a girl, four for a boy, five for silver, six for gold, seven for a secret, never to be told. Eight for a wish, nine for a kiss, ten for a bird you must not miss.’
The rhyme is based on a superstition that the number of magpies you see that day relates to your future. Well that rhyme features two of One For Sorrow’s magpie characters: Sorrow and Joy.
It’s important to note that, despite the title and narrative, this book does have a happy ending – empathised by the big, shiny sticker on the front cover!
The Story
In the story, Sorrow, a magpie, wakes up to find that he has lost his Joy. Throughout the next few magnificently illustrated pages, Sorrow’s story is told to us through eloquently written rhyme. Sorrow flies from his tree to search in the fog, but despite how hard he looks, he cannot find Joy. He flies back to the garden and searches their tree once more, before saying “I feel so alone, maybe friends could help me?” One by one, he asks his friends about Joy. Sadly, his friends aren’t that helpful and instead of looking for Joy or talking to Sorrow about how lonely and sad he is feeling, they reply to him with phrases such as, “don’t be a sad boy” and “try not to fear”.
These phrases replay in Sorrow’s mind and make him feel even more upset and lonely. Eventually, disheartened and alone, he flies off, causing him to meet a wise old owl. As our little magpie tells the wise owl his story, the fog begins to clear. Joy is there with him on the rooftop and, just like the fog, Sorrow’s worries vanish from sight and Joy promises to “fly with him both day and night.”
Mental Health As A Topic Of Conversation With Children
It is safe to say that I am a huge fan of One For Sorrow and I am so thankful for brilliant writers like Mr Gresty who broach the subject in a gently and easily digestible manner.
As someone who has realised retrospectively that I suffered with anxiety from a very young age, I wholeheartedly agree with teaching children about mental health. I think it’s a subject that affects everyone at some point in their lives and it should be openly discussed with children. One For Sorrow offers parents, carers and maybe even teachers the opportunity to gently introduce mental health as subject of conversation, enabling children to understand their own emotions, as well as those of the people around them.
A problem shared with the right people is a problem halved. It is as important for children to understand mental health and feel comfortable talking to someone trusted about their feelings as it is for adults to respect and validate children’s emotions.
Our Thoughts On One For Sorrow
I have nothing bad to say about this book. I think both the subject matter and the way in which it’s delivered is brilliant and I will definitely be on the lookout for other works from Mr Gresty. Luke enjoyed the style of writing; he’s a big fan of books that rhyme. I am a fan of that too – I love how easily the story flows when you read it out loud. The illustrations are stunning and accompany the story very well. Although Sorrow is clearly looking for Joy (another bird, as Luke pointed out, “you can tell by her capital J!”) the double meaning is pretty easy to understand and Luke, aged 5, understood that Sorrow was sad and was looking for his friend, but also he wanted to feel happy again.
Should You Get It? Where Can You Buy It?
If you have children at home aged between 4 – 7 or you work with children, I definitely think that One For Sorrow should be on your bookshelf. The story is fantastically executed, the writing and illustrations are great and the book itself also looks really nice. The introduction is written by the fabulously funny comedian, writer, actor and former psychiatric nurse, Jo Brand. One For Sorrow can be purchased from the Mr Gresty website – click here to visit the shop.
*We were sent a copy of One For Sorrow to read and review. All thoughts and pictures are my own.
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Rachael is a 31 year old mum to 10 year old Luke and 5 year old Oscar. She lives in England and writes about family life, crafts, recipes, parenting wins(and fails), as well as travel, days out, fashion and living the frugal lifestyle.
27 Comments
Sabina Green
This is great. I think it is so important for kids to learn about mental health. My son has been learning things already at infant school. This book sounds brilliant.
Amy - All about a MummY
This sounds like a wonderful book. My eldest definitely has an anxious streak (which she has inherited from me) so this sounds like a great book for her.
Wendy
Oh my goodness, I need to buy this book for my son. He has such strong feelings and is so sensitive and I do worry about his mental health as he grows up, he seems to feel things really deeply. This seems like a wonderful way to introduce the topic to younger children and the story sounds perfect for such a task xx
Jayne @ Sticky Mud and Belly Laughs
What a fantastic book. It is so important to encourage our little ones to be open about their feelings. I’d like to think that my boys can come and talk to me or their dad about anything. x
Gresty
Thank you all for your lovely comments, One for Sorrow is also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneforsorrow.book/
And if you are fast you can purchase a copy for £10 until 14th January 2019 from shop.mrgresty.com
Many thanks,
Gresty.
Anosa
One for sorrow sounds like a lovely book especially covering mental health as it is such an important topic which many don’t cover it.
Fran Back With A Bump
What a great idea for a book. It’s so good to see mental health being tackled. I love the way the book is written and illustrated too, looks really quirky and not too babyish either!
Sarah Dee
I think kids also need to know it’s ok not to be ok. This sounds like a great book and something I would be happy to buy for Minime!
Alex Gladwin
I really like this! It’s good to see a book that approaches this important subject written for children too!
Rachel
This sounds so wonderfully written and it has gone on my list of things to buy for my niece who has just turned 7, but I think the subject is an important one x
Jon
What a fantastic book. Mental Health is SO important the sooner you introduce the whole concept to your kids the better!
Sonia
I love the look of this book, I think I will get it for my youngest as I am sure it would really help him as he struggles with overwhelming sadness at times. It breaks my heart that I can’t seem to help him x
CHARLOTTE
Love the concept behind this book. It is so important that children are raised to be aware of not only their physical health but also mental health.
Hannah Wood
My kids are very much in to book at the moment and I know they would love this one too.
l dove
I love this! I have had mental health issues my whole life and it’s hard sometimes to explain that to the kids. This sounds like such a great book!
Jenna Parrington
What a fantastic idea for a children’s book, one which is often overlooked. I’ll be checking this out for sure!
Sarah Bailey
This sounds like a really good book for kids. I love the fact it has a happy ending as mental health can have that and it’s always good to know it isn’t always sorrow, but teaching kids about this awful illness from a young age is a good thing.
Rachel
This book sounds lovely. Definitely one I’ll have to look up for my own children x
Marie
This is a fantastic idea! A really simple story with a big message, great to open up about mental health.
Victoria
I love the concept of this book! Children definitely need to aware of mental health issues and the fact that if they like something is wrong they aren’t alone. Love that there are storybooks that put it in a simple manner. I’ll definitely look this one up. Thanks for sharing.
Super Busy Mum
This sounds like such a lovely book and a book that children could really benefit from. Mental health is such a huge subject nowadays!
Amanda blackburn
This sounds absolutely wonderful. I’m a childminder so will definitely be getting this.
Lauretta at Home and Horizon
Sounds like a wonderful book. This could be a good gift for my friend’s 7 year old.
Louise
This sounds like a really wonderful book. Stacey, my eldest, supports kids her age with mental health issues so I think she’d find this super useful 🙂
Louise x
Clare Minall
Oh love this!! My kids would constantly be adding to their reading list! This is a great
help as I compile their 2019 reading list.
Jenni
What a beautiful and important book! I will definitely try and add this to our home library.
Hayley McLean
I love the sound of this!! Its so important to talk to children about mental health. I think Im going to buy this.